HOW TO HANDLE THE FEAR OF REJECTION SO IT DOESN’T HANDLE YOU 💔😱😬
Can you IMAGINE what you would do if you NEVER FELT ANY FEAR OF REJECTION ever again?
You would literally be limitless.
The shame of rejection can scar you forever… and prevent you from ever trying to aim higher in life.
It can make you feel so…. small. Unworthy. Undeserving.
Like you should go hide in your corner and not even try any more, right?
But if there is ONE THING I know from putting myself out there CONSTANTLY in everything from Instagram to > bikini competitions > to quitting my job > growing my business it is THIS:
>> If you are serious about reaching the NEXT LEVEL YOU you MUST conquer the fear of rejection so it doesn’t conquer YOU. <<
This is a skill every single human on the planet should have.
But ESPECIALLY female leaders & entrepreneurs.
I did an EPIC YouTube LIVE session on MY TOP 5 MENTAL HACKS to deal with REJECTION.
SEE NOTES BELOW THE VIDEO but you really should watch the video to get the most out of this and understand the notes.
NOTES: 5 RE-FRAMES FOR NEVER FEARING REJECTION AGAIN:
1. Rejection is neither good nor bad. It just IS.
All rejection is neutral: YOU apply the meaning to it
- It’s like a puzzle piece. Either it fits or it doesn’t. If the puzzle piece doesn’t fit it doesn’t mean it SUCKS or is terrible or is never going to fit anywhere again. It’s neutral
- YOU attach the meaning to it
>> What meaning are you attaching to rejection? <<
2. STOP ATTACHING YOUR SELF WORTH SHIT TO REJECTION:
- I’m not good enough etc
- Re-frame to think of yourself as a puzzle piece. The puzzle piece is whole and worthy by itself. It’s not a shitty puzzle piece, it just didn’t fit in the puzzle.
- You are able to be whole and complete as a person while still not being a good fit for someone
3. STOP APPLYING FALSE SCARCITY TO REJECTION:
- “I’ll never get this opportunity again / it’s my only chance / The world is ending”
- STOP applying false scarcity to the situation
- What is the outcome you’re trying to get?
- What are the feelings you’re seeking from that outcome?
- You can get these feelings from many places. Think of 10 other ways you could reach your desired outcome or feelings.
- Think ABUNDANCE not scarcity. The moment you think scarcity you’re done.
4. SWITCH THE POWER DYNAMIC IN YOUR HEAD
- Think of rejection is YOU are qualifying the opportunity.
- YOU hold the power: Are they good enough for you? Are they a good fit for you?
- Remember: YOU are never rejected. YOU are ALWAYS the one rejecting.
5. BUT I REALLY WANT THIS AND THEY STILL REJECTED ME
- First off, don’t be needy and desperate.
- The universe is abundant with opportunities and there is ALWAYS another client / job / man.
- If you REALLY think it’s a good fit, and THEY just can’t see it–Don’t let them get away
- Understand their objections: Are they valid?
- If you know you can help them it’s your DUTY to close them
- If you know you can serve them it’s your DUTY to do so.
- If they aren’t ready –> NO doesn’t mean NO forever. Keep in touch.
- Remember: ABUNDANCE NOT SCARCITY.
- The more you come off needy and desperate the less people want to hire you.
- Even if you don’t have a lot of opportunities, carry yourself as if you do.
- What would that person do / think / say / feel? Act AS IF until you become that person.
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